EQ 🥣
What Is Your EQ?™
Do You Even Know What EQ Is?™
I didn’t know. Emotional? Emotional to me meant: be careful. They’re coming for you if they catch you feeling anything. Don’t express. Just be still. ¡O te va a ir mal! You know what comes. 💀
So many of us think we’ve got high EQ just because we don’t yell in public or because we know how to say “I’m fine” without blinking. 👀 Pero... that’s not emotional intelligence. That’s performance. 🎭
I used to think I was highly evolved in EQ. I wasn’t. 🎤
Hold up— I was trained to perform emotions, not feel them. Now I’m like: “Ahh… yup. That’s the ticket.” 😅
😳 What EQ Is NOT:
- Being “nice” all the time (that’s fawning 😬)
- Avoiding hard emotions (👋🏽 hola, spiritual bypassing)
- Acting “unbothered” as a trauma response
- Letting people walk all over you in the name of “healing” 🥣
EQ is not a badge. It’s a brújula — a compass 🧭 for staying connected… but to yourself first.
Think of EQ as your internal WiFi signal. If it’s weak? You’re not present. You’re buffering. 💻
I used to love being the smartest one in the room. Porque asking questions as a kid? 👧🏽 It was dangerous.
"¿Qué te pasa?"
"¿Estás loca?"
"Sal de aquí."
"Go to your room."
"Better yet, come here and do some adult stuff even though you’re just nine." 🥣
En serio — I learned to shut up to stay safe. Not to grow. Not to feel.
In Spanish we say, “me cayó el veinte.” That means something finally clicked. 🧠 And that’s what emotional intelligence feels like once you stop pretending you’re okay… and start listening to your cuerpo, corazón, and contexto.
🛠️ One Real Action You Can Try:
Next time you’re emotionally activated (👊🏽 hello, familia holidays, dating apps, job interviews):
Pause and say out loud:
“Okay. What am I actually feeling underneath this reaction?” 🥣
This is EQ-in-acción™. This is teaching yourself how to become quien tú eres — not just who you were trained to be. 🇵🇷
💃🏽 Add some salsa, mango, coconut, maracas, and old school reggaetón if it helps you reconnect. This is about remembering yourself back to yourself.
✨ If this made something click —
Consider supporting the emotional labor behind it. Even a café virtual ☕ goes a long way.
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