Imagine You Ask Someone A Real Question 🙋‍♀️

🗣️ Let’s Talk About What We’re *Not* Saying

Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it — we slide into slippery words, phrases, or polished performances instead of just naming what’s real. Not because we’re fake. Because we’ve learned to survive this way. 🐾

Here are some of the ways we (yes, *we*) can end up avoiding clarity. They’re not sins — they’re survival scripts. But once we see them, we can shift them.

• 💬 Filter-speak — Filtro emocional: When we say “I’m sending love” 😇 instead of “I’m hurt” 💔 or “I don’t want to talk right now.” We clean it up so it sounds sweet — even if we’re silently screaming inside.
• 🥗 Word salad — Ensalada de palabras: Fancy, scattered phrases that *feel* deep... but leave people squinting like, “Huh?” 🤷‍♀️ Often rooted in nervous energy or trying to impress — not connection.
• 🔄 Spin language — Giro verbal: “I wasn’t avoiding you, I was... aligning my vibration.” ✨👻 Aka, spiritualized dodging. Sounds pretty, but we disappear behind it.
• 🙃 Polite deflection — Desvío cortés: Saying “Let me get back to you” when we already know it’s a no. 🙅‍♂️ Because conflict is scary — and avoidance is fluent in our nervous systems.
• 💼 Corporate speak — Habla de empresa: “Circling back,” “holding space,” “pivoting.” 🚪🌀 When the words are perfectly professional... but nobody’s actually saying anything.
• 🧠 Gaslight grammar — Gramática confusa: “I never said that” or “You took it wrong.” 🫥 It keeps us safe — but it erases the other person’s experience. It’s the grammar of denial.
• 🧴 Slippery talk — Habla resbalosa: “I’m open to possibilities” 🌫️ when we’re just not ready to commit. It feels vague because it is vague — and maybe that’s safer than being direct.
• 👞 Soft-shoeing — Paso suave: Talking around the truth with charm, intellect, or spirituality. 🩰 “I just trust the timing” instead of “I’m scared as hell and don’t know what I want.”

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🔍 Example in use (a.k.a. how your inner child might see it):

Imagine you ask someone, “Why didn’t you text me back?” and they say, “I was moving through a portal of recalibration during Mercury retrograde.”
🧸 Translation? “I didn’t want to. I felt overwhelmed. And I didn’t know how to tell you that.”

We’ve all been there. We didn’t know how to be honest, so we performed. Or spiritualized. Or disappeared.

This isn't a blame game — it's a mirror. 🪞 Because the truth is... some of us learned to be slippery because directness felt dangerous. But now? We're safe enough to get real. And our relationships are craving it. 🥣